(Excerpt From Above Post)
The below two paragraphs are reposted from Conrad's site
spotted Sxxxxx, a [nationailty withheld] "working girl" who claims to be in love with me [Note to male readers -- should you be approached my this girl, I'd suggest giving it a miss. (this is linked to the photo of this woman) She's crap in bed . . . unless the prospect of being paid increases her enthusiasm significantly. It might, given she claims to charge HK$3,000 a go, which only proves there actually is a sucker born every minute]. Bad sex or not, it was three o'clock in the morning and I'm newly girlfriendless, so I permitted myself to be persuaded to take her home with me
Sunday, September 7, 2003
I awoke this morning with a poisonous hangover and an unspeakably ugly girl in my bed. I know, I know, 'looks aren't everything,' you say. 'Maybe she has a wonderful personality'. Perhaps she does. I'll never know, as she didn't speak a word of English.
It’s like these guys like to pretend it’s all in fun, all good natured, except all those women who are there, were either tricked into coming to HK as “dancers” then forced to work. Or came here to work as maids and had a second career because their lives are so dead end and they have a huge family to support back at home that doing this with a chance for “Lucky Love,” someone who might actually fall in love with them, marry them and take them out of their lives, is worth the chance.
It’s not good natured at all. It’s a sex trade of the rich and poor countries, it’s a sex trade between the high earning men and women who had no opportunities. If you’re a woman, and sometimes a young boy, it’s one way out.
These girls might pretend they enjoy in front of their customers, these men might like to lie to themselves, but all it takes is an hour talking to these women, which I have once or twice to know how much they hate their lives, and their work and what’s going on. They will always say, “What can you do? That’s what happens if you are poor, and we all need money.” Sometimes the really smart ones will tell you, “My country is poor, this part of the world is poor, this is what we do.”
Yes, most of Asia is poor, it’s easy to forget that when you live in Hong Kong, when you think of Japan, Singapore, even Shanghai as Asia. But how many people think of Thailand, Philippines, Indonesia, Vietnam, Laos, Cambodia, the rest of China and all those places and what’s the realities of these places so what happens in Wan Chai can happen.
The Asian Sex Trade is alive and happening. Due to the unequal distribution of wealth in this part of the world it's so much more obvious and wide spread and people like me, normal people who just live our normal lifes or just go about blogging have to rub shoulders with it and rather than have it just part of the background, and have to deal with it where it's front and center and must pretend to go along otherwise my site get attacked, just shows how every day and what a problem this is.
It's such a sad fact about Asia.
To read the whole article Falling into the Wan Chai Trap: The Spiral into the Asian Sex Trade
This is my response to Down with the Over Forty Cheek Touchers! Links are Removed. Coz I was linked by a bunch of bloggers for the explicit reason so they can tell me how I am wrong in an insulting way, and let all their "friends" come here and attack me on this blog.
Dear William, Richard and Friends. (Conrad since you are so fearless, I figure why not use your real name?)
I was thinking how the other week Big White Guy wrote a rant about how he would never put photos of women up on his blog because of various reasons. It seems from what I read, he’s talked about it before. As far as I know, no one attacked him like they attacked me. They didn’t link to his blog and put crap photos up saying, “This is for Randall of Big White Guy.”
Coz they can’t. Coz those images are not similar to what he looks like, but they are of me. They know that, the readers know that. So they don’t. They don’t pick on him because he is a big white guy.
They pick on me, which is so obvious to me and everyone around me is because I am an Asian Woman. Because I look like those girls they put the photos up of.
But instead of smiling coyly back, I am sitting behind my computer saying I don’t like watching my Asian sisters paraded around on the internet in a community they decided I was part of, with no intention of my own. I made it quite clear in November I didn’t want to be and wasn’t part of their crew. I don’t like how they talk about China and Chinese people a lot of the times, I don’t find it particularly interesting anyway, and those pictures and stories of Asia girls ten to 15 years younger than me, girls younger than my real sister makes it impossible for me to even read so I get to know what the interest is. I never will do it, so the only times I learn about these people is when they don’t like what I said, and come over here to say rude things about me. And this time they got pissed off because I was removing LINKS. Little pieces of HTML code because it was a pretty clear action against what I thought is unacceptable. It’s beyond comprehension how ridiculous it's turned out.
I am pretty sure they are freaking out because that’s the last thing they want to hear from someone like me. For that’s why some (for those who can't read, I said SOME) non Asian men are in Asia. The rules are different here, they still get to be old fashioned men while existing in a city environment. You can probably still be that way in the more backwaters places of western countries, but not in the cities. The women in western countries who want to take more and more control over their lives, move to the cities, and the ones who grew up there are already that way. However that’s not the case in Asia as this place generally still has a way to go, both societal and economically. Some of these guys move to Asia as an escape of what’s going on in the west.
And they get the added bonus of lording over the “locals” they feel extra special just like Chris wanted to point out that western men gets the “best of YOUR women.” If that’s not colonial, racist and a whole lot of words we can all think of, I don’t know what is. We're not "the" men's women in the first place. We're our own persons, individuals who can choose our own lives and we're definitely not his.
And the truth is a lot Asian people cannot compete with an expat salary with all their perks, most Asian people haven’t had the opportunities to the education their western counter parts have had the luxury to have. Some of us do. Some of us can speak for ourselves. Some of us lived in other places and know what’s it like, and why they are here. How good Asia can be as a place to live, not only because of the reasons I mentioned but because of a whole lot of other ones.
But on the topic at hand, here Conrad from Gweilo diaries (where is the plural from? Does he have more than one?) can have sex with women who are underage, (if what was left on the comment box is true, because I have never read it myself) while if he was in the US he would be arrested for sleeping with a 17 or however old girl. He knows that, he knows he can put pictures up of teenagers and not have all his political credibility taken away. I have never seen a site like that based in the US because if you’re talking politics and then posting pictures from soft porn sites, people are going to balk.
And part of his popularity is not only there are lots of men here as well as women who think it's okay, there are also people in the US gets likes to get a view that life from afar, get to live vicariously through him, as they could never in a million years do so in real life, because most people in the western world are also in a normal position in life. Average. Normal. Living like everyone else. I know why he’s popular. People like to explain it to me for some reason, as if I can't see and that makes it okay but it doesn’t make him credible either way.
And then there is Richard from Peking Duck who I so adored, going on about human rights, turning around and attacking me. Someone who I totally trusted and wrote long emails to, telling him my thoughts and feelings, when I was still deeply depressed, very sick and was rambling away not completely clear headed. He acted like he cared, and he goes and does whatever he did (I didn’t read it but people wrote me about it). Over what? Over pictures of women.
The last time I looked women made up 52% of the human race. Human rights included them. And human rights meant treating everyone regardless of race, creed, culture and gender with equal respect.
Cheris Kramerae Said, “Feminism is the radical notion that women are human beings.”
That’s right, Human Beings.
And now everything he ever said about what he believes in I so respect, just got trashed. Coz it’s easy to say those words without living it fully.
Not that it matters at all. The truth is Internet “friends” aren’t real friends. They are like people you bump into in life who you may or may not see again. Who you may or may not have a lasting impression and a good conversation. And sometimes it adds up to something and sometimes it doesn’t.
Say what you want about my thoughts and about this piece because they are mine, and you can say what you want about me because I didn’t start off pretending I am something I am not, I let my flaws, sadness, joy, silliness show.
While I think a lot of these people hide behind the screen to present a different version of themselves. It’s so easy pick words carefully, choose what to write about, and then can truly present the image of oneself modified to perfection.
There are no flaws, they are perfect. Just like they aren’t in real life.
But you can’t hide forever, things show through just like now. Because what it did was show me and many others how immature, two faced, and how fragile their egos are. The façade crumbles just for a moment, because people can see, people can read.
Just because you get a lot of click throughs doesn’t mean the readers agree with everything you do or say. Doesn’t mean they love you in any personal way. This is entertainment, something to do to pass time. Just because they read, and you can make them think doesn’t mean you can influence them to have no thoughts of their own. Some of the emails I got, just proved to me that there are plenty of thinking people out there. I always knew that, much like I always knew there were plenty of racist, sexist people out there too. And those people who freak out the most are the most threatenned by what I say. Plenty of people read and just go, “okay,” and click away.
Many many Hong Kong bloggers have made snide comments about me through the last two months, I always manage to hear about it through someone else who read their blogs, and people feel the need to tell me.
Each time I don’t read and I never link back. There is no need to defend myself because that’s their problem. I don’t need a bunch of my cronies to go there and tell them how wrong they are about me or the issue. I don’t owe them the attention. I don’t owe them an explanation. They are just some strangers who don’t like what I have to say.
Which is what they will remain. No matter how many insulting comments they want to put up all over the Internet. Unless they are crazy and actually come up to me in person and does anything, say pick up the phone and call me, it doesn’t affect me. If it happens to spill into real life, I just call the cops if I feel I am in danger. Nothing to do about that.
Well, that’s about it.
But I am so sure this is how I feel and know I won't be intimidated by whatever they choose to do next. I am not even going to update Glutter for a week, maybe more. So everyone who comes gets to read this. I am going to leave it on, even if it’s Chinese New Year. :)
This is the last post of the year of the sheep.
I will be back when we are in the year of the Monkey.
-- few days later--
Hmmm. Heard they were writing rude purile things about me on their blogs. Coz as usual they don't have anything to write about other than what someone else said.
Elenor Roosevelt once wrote:
"Small minds talk about people, average minds talk about events, great minds talk about ideas."
No need to say more.